You have no idea how many times I've thought about this in the last 24 hours. No idea how many times I've put myself in my mother's shoes and contemplated what I'd do if I were in her shoes. Absolutely no idea how I felt when I got that message that my mother left her appointment out of humiliation.
I thought long and hard about what I wanted to do knowing someone had humiliated my mother in a public setting. A mere doctor's office assistant who'd openly referred to my mother as "the lady with no money" who "they needed to get cash from". Mind you, this woman said this when my mother had owed no balance and had ALWAYS paid in full for any service at the time of service.
There was the initial reaction of asking my mother what was the name of the company so that I could find their social media accounts and blast them. Then I realized one employee doesn't necessarily reflect the company. I thought I could find out who the assistant was specifically so that I could personally let her know she's the skum of the earth, but realized that putting someone else down won't heal my pain. After thinking about it more, I concluded that the BEST thing to do was to write.
To the woman who referred to my mother as "the lady with no money" I have a few things I'd like to share with you.
That "lady" that you spoke about is a mother. She's the woman who's name is tattooed on my spine because she will forever be my backbone. For 22 years she's been the only parent in my life who always figured it out. She raised me, guided me and put me through four years of college without asking for a single pat on the back. Now, she's raising my sister who's in the 7th grade and continuing to excel despite her learning disability.
That "lady" that you spoke about is a role model. My father was emotionally and physically abusive to my mother some years ago. There's no need to harp on the struggles she went through with that relationship, but she left, took me to Florida and raised me to be a strong, independent woman. She's raised me to know that no man should never put his hands on you, nor should you allow him to make you feel less than.
That "lady" that you spoke about is a worker. She commutes over an hour and a half every single day to put a roof over our head and food on the table. She NEVER complains about working and does what she can with what she makes. She's the only person holding up a single income household of three and let me tell you, she's doing a damn good job at it.
That "lady" that you spoke about is a magician. You may not know it but my mother has been down to a few cents in her wallet before, but still made a way to provide for her family. We've never missed a birthday, Christmas or any other holiday. We've never gone without school clothes, lunch money or any of that. Shit, I still ask my mother for gas money and someway, somehow she always has it.
That "lady" that you spoke about is a person. She's not a millionaire, but she is rich in love. She has nothing but love to give and wants nothing but love in return. You taking the time to humiliate her in public makes me feel bad for you, because you obviously don't have as much love in your heart. Despite my family not being the richest in the world, I wouldn't trade our love for the world.
So to the woman who referred to my mother as "the lady who has no money" I want to say thank you.
Thank you for reminding me that I NEVER want to be a person who thrives off of putting other people and their lives down. Thank you for inspiring me to not only do better for myself and my family, but to also do better in my community instead of looking down on their lives as you've done. Thank you for making me remember that belittling you, your life and occupation won't change that you're already a miserable person inside. An most importantly, thank you for reminding me that I have one of the most amazing mothers in the world and I don't tell her enough that I'm thankful to call her my mom.